How You Lead Yourself Determines Your Results

This isn’t a quiz. It’s a self-leadership mirror.

The Self-Leadership Scorecard reveals what part of you is currently guiding your life - your truth, your protection, or the pressure to hold it all together.

It’s designed for growth-led individuals - whether you lead others or are deep in the work yourself - who want to stop circling the same loops and start leading from real alignment.

You’ll receive:

• 🧭 A score across 3 core self-leadership pillars
• ✨ A clear insight into what’s running the show beneath the surface
• 🌿 A transformational focus to walk away with - not just insight, but direction

Take a breath. Then begin.

Authentic Alignment

This pillar explores how aligned you are in your identity, values, and truth. It reflects how congruent your inner world is with how you show up in life, leadership, and relationships — and whether you're making choices from authenticity or old identity patterns.

Integration

This pillar explores how well you’re able to recognize, relate to, and integrate the parts of you that once protected you. It reflects your capacity to meet fear, shame, or doubt with presence — and to lead from self-trust instead of survival. Integration is where you bring your adapted self into alignment, without abandoning or overriding it.

Refinement

This pillar reveals how much space you can hold for your evolution, success, and visibility. It explores whether you’re moving with your growth in a sustainable way, or falling into burnout, over-responsibility, or over-doing it to keep up with the new level of you.

ALIGNMENT – Emerging Embodiment (Score 10–12)

Where the Work Is Needed
You’re living more honestly than ever before. There’s a groundedness in how you move now — even when life stretches or challenges you. This isn’t about being “there”... it’s about staying here.

What’s required now is not doing more... it’s trusting the new version of you that’s starting to take the lead.

But expansion brings tests — old mirrors, old energy, old expectations. This is the work of holding alignment without contracting, explaining, or proving. Let congruence become your new baseline — not something you earn, justify, or shrink to keep.

Focus Right Now
Choose one space in your life — relationship, work, family, or visibility — where you’ve been holding back out of fear of being “too much” or “not enough.” Name it. Then move one step closer to honesty there — a word, a tone, a boundary, a reveal.

To Integrate
Close your eyes. Say out loud: “This version of me is allowed to take up space... even here.” Notice where your body wants to pull back. Breathe into that place until the tension softens.

INTEGRATION – Off-Centre (Score 0–5)

Where the Work Is Needed
The part of you that knows better still struggles to intervene when the old story takes over. You know the language. You can name the pattern. But it keeps running anyway — not because you’re not ready, but because there are places in you that still don’t feel safe to soften, trust, or receive.

This isn’t a mindset issue... it’s your system protecting you from what used to be dangerous — being seen, being real, being alive.

The invitation is to stop trying to control the pattern and start building a deeper relationship with it.

Focus Right Now
Name one behaviour or state you fall into when things feel intense — shutdown, fixing, pleasing, spiralling, etc. Instead of judging it, trace it. Where does it start? What does it protect?

To Integrate
Gently place both hands on your ribs. Say out loud: “I see what you’re trying to do. I’m here now. I can hold this differently.” Breathe until your nervous system registers it.

INTEGRATION – In Transition (Score 6–9)

Where the Work Is Needed
You can see the pattern now. You can name the protector, the default, the fear that’s behind the behaviour. And yet… it still shows up. Not always, but when it matters.

This isn’t a failure… it’s a moment of integration — where the space between awareness and action can close, if you slow down enough to let it.

You don’t need to “do the work” harder. You need to respond with more intimacy.

Focus Right Now
Recall the last time a familiar pattern kicked in — even in a small moment. Revisit it gently. What did that version of you need in that moment? What didn’t they get?

To Integrate
Put one hand on your lower belly. One hand over your heart. Say: “I won’t abandon you to get through this faster.” Stay for one slow breath longer than feels comfortable.

INTEGRATION – Emerging Embodiment (Score 10–12)

Where the Work Is Needed
You’re moving from pattern. You’re leading from presence. But certain spaces still trigger that quiet recoil — the one that says “don’t go too far, don’t get too loud, don’t show that part.”

You don’t need to dig. You need to rehearse your readiness — to live as someone who no longer organises around the old threat.

This isn’t about what’s unhealed… it’s about not shrinking just because you know what pain used to live there.

Focus Right Now
Choose one space this week where you often soften, apologise, or dull your impact. Name what you’re actually holding back — and bring 10% more of it next time. Just 10%.

To Integrate
Stand with both feet flat. Palms open. Eyes closed. Say softly: “I can hold more of myself now. It’s safe to be fully here.” Let your breath find rhythm in your chest.

REFINEMENT – Off-Centre (Score 0–5)

Where the Work Is Needed
You’ve been growing… but the growth feels chaotic, costly, or confusing. This might look like over-efforting. Or not starting at all. It might feel like burnout masked as productivity… or perfectionism pretending to be readiness.

You don’t need more strategy. You need structure that honours your system — so the expansion doesn’t destroy your foundation.

Focus Right Now
Look at where you’ve been trying to hold “more” without adjusting your rhythm. Where are you pouring from? Where are you resourced? Choose one thing to pause, delegate, or soften this week. One.

To Integrate
Sit with your back supported. Say gently: “I don’t have to prove my readiness through depletion.” Exhale like your body just got the message.

REFINEMENT – In Transition (Score 6–9)

Where the Work Is Needed
You know what’s next. You’ve felt the edges of your potential… tasted it, touched it, maybe even taught it. But you’re still playing tug-of-war with your capacity.

It’s not a matter of readiness… it’s a matter of rhythm, regulation, and deep energetic agreement. You don’t need to be more evolved. You just need to let your system trust the version of you that’s already arrived.

Focus Right Now
Name one area where you’ve been trying to “get ready” even though you already are. Then take one aligned micro-action — not from urgency, but from truth.

To Integrate
Close your eyes. Say aloud: “It’s okay to move as the person I am, not the one I’m still preparing to be.” Anchor it with a slow breath into your belly.

REFINEMENT – Emerging Embodiment (Score 10–12)

Where the Work Is Needed
You’re no longer trying to evolve… you’re evolving. But holding more truth, more visibility, more impact… means being even more intimate with what it costs to stay clean in that process.

This is where refinement becomes sacred. Where your power sharpens quietly. Where the energy you carry does more than the words you say. Now the work is in how you hold the nuanced pressure, attention, projection, and success without outsourcing your centre.

Focus Right Now
Identify one area where you feel the pull to speed up, over-explain, or outperform. Pause. Ask: What would leading from trust look like here instead? Then do that.

To Integrate
Stand in stillness. Say quietly: “I’m allowed to succeed without distortion. My rhythm is the strategy.” Let stillness be your proof.